Why it is so easy to provide feedback and so difficult to take?

A recent survey by a leading social magazine on employee motivation/feedbacks revealed that 99% of the participants felt it is easy to give feedback but not so easy to take it.. particularly when we are talking about giving/receiving negative feedbacks... if you don't necessarily buy this.. try one simple thing;

Ask 5 of your closest people what is that one thing that they don't like about you and how they would like you to change that... Trust me, they would shoot it even before you complete your sentence.. :)

However, when you are receiving these comments you would not really be willing to accept it at the face of it, you would argue, present your case, cite instances when you were at the top of your behaviour and so on.. however post the initial denial and resistance if you closley look at those feedbacks you will realize some semblance in each one of them .. you will understand what is that you actually need to work on and once you have understood that.. Trust me there is no going back...

If things are pretty slow for you or the going is getting tougher by the day... don't postpone the problem.. face it right away.. do a Root Cause Analysis.. if you feel you are always being victimized.. then think twice.. no one in the world has so much time to focus on YOU and YOU ALONE for taking their vengeance.. so your ending up at not being the so called "go getter" list has to be pinned to something else..

So what is it? try and nail down the 3 or 4 major areas of improvement.. never ever pick many more as you will end up doing nothing if the scope is too wide.. try fixing one problem at a time.. once you have your task list ready, analyze the support need and logistics..frame a definitive timeline..

If everything is in place.. Bingo! Go on start implementing it and soon you will find yourself in the driving seat dishing out Gyan or feedbacks to others.. and would be able to secure your berth in the elite club of happy and successful people.

You are so special...

The days we spent together,
The times we've shared,
I forgot what it was like,
For you to be near.
The smile you put in my face,
The silent glance,Made me remember,
That it was you whom I missed.
I felt the warmth of your glance,
That had once touched my heart,
And I swore to my self,
That we should never part.
This is what will keep us together,
Even when we're miles away,
So that we can be one,
When we meet again someday.
But until that day comes,
I just want you to know,
I have never loved someone,
As much as I love you so.

Parting special friends....

"When the going gets tough the tough get going.." this is precisely true as I have seen and experienced in my life.. Life goes on..and memories fade..

But some stay with you..memories associated with the dear ones...always warming you .. giving you the warmth.. the soothing effect of warm sunshine after a long rainy day.. tender sea breeze on a quiet night..the echos of the hushed solitude.. the first few droplets of rain on a parched land..

these are the special memories that never fade..they weather the test of time..and they are etched in you..your mind..your heart..

What fades is the sense of loss or gain associated with these memories..rather replaced by the warmth and ease, making you go on with a new zeal and rigour..

When it is time to say adieu..even for a short span of time..want to do it in a lighter note..(hiding my emotions..and the profundity of my thoughts ) want you to remember me with a smile on your face..

remember me as you would any sweet fond memory...remember all the good times we spent together.. remember all the leg pullings that I did.. remember my stupid way of dealing with your email.. :-) remember me always eager to fight with you..remember me as I am ..remember me the way you would like me to remember you...

Bottomline is remember me always with a smile on your face..as ..smile is contagious :-)

I can relate to this...

I read it somewhere ..and found it to be very true..I can relate to this..Infact this is like someone has read my feelings..or as if this has been written by me..specially for those precious little moments..I spend with you...leaving me longing for more...

When A Girl is quiet,Millions of things are running in her mind.
When A Girl is not arguing,She is thinking deeply.
When A Girl looks at you with eyes full of questions,She is wondering how long you will be around.
When A Girl answers "I'm fine" after a few seconds,She is not fine at all.
When A Girl stares at you,She is wondering why you are lying.
When A Girl lays on your chest,She is wishing for you to be hers forever.
When A Girl calls everyday,She is seeking your attention.
When A Girl SMS's you everyday,She wants you to reply at least once.
When A Girl says I Love You,She means it.
When A Girl says that she cant live without you,She has made up her mind that you are her future.
When A Girl says I Miss You,No One in this world can miss you more than her....

...and When I say I miss you I really really mean it...Take care dear...Love you always no matter what....

Mood Swings..and managing them..

Mood swings..what exactly will qualify as a mood swing..is it when .. one suddenly feels euphoric without any reason..or may be when you just feel so lonely so depressed that you are not yourself anymore...If you are one of those who sit back and watch their own mood swing..and though feeling high or low are still able to wonder why..and how..then yes we are in sync..encourage you to read on..

Being a not so bad observer I happen to notice the mood swing not only mine..also of people I really care about..special friend..and amazed that how his mood can get on to me.. Is this the bonding factor..that I understand him so well.. or is this the very fact that drives him away.. just as I am writing this..i can feel my mood swinging..going from blue to scarlet..and to crimson..in fact a light smile is round the corner...:-) MOODS... how these govern us..

So..i was telling about the moods..have you ever noticed when you chat to your dear ones..when they are really upset..how your repeated assurance and your love for them brings them out of the blue mood..and likewise when you really are upset and the mobile starts chiming ..and hey lo! its him..don't I experience the sudden uplift in the mood..and a new lease of hope..courage to face the world..

Well its wonderful..this mood it drives you..but the art is not to be driven by it..as far as possible...but still there will be times when you face a real do or die situations in life..thats the time when you should have an open chat with your friend..special friend..and unload everything..if nothing else..you will feel secure..wanted and feel ready for the show again...!!!

So take care my dear..don't let people or moods drive you..Believe me..you are worth much more...and live life to the fullest...

Fall in love...the question is why?

Ever since i remember..it has been haunting me to know why am I different..or is it just in my mind? Why do I do what I do? Why being simple and blissful does not sound appealing..atleast to me? Why I have to complicate things for me and for those around me?

For ages people have been saying that the mind governs all the action..and still it is a known fact that people do fall in love..and heart does take over what if for a split second..or for longer..and whoa do you remain yourself anymore..

I wish I could remain aloof..let my mind reign supreme..let me be immune from the charm and allure of the mind of the person I adore the most..

Or at the least let me be a silent spectator..and watch the conflicts of my alter egos within me...with heart telling me to do the things..that will take me to cloud nine..with the adrelanine pumping in..and mind reminds..to keep away and avoid the pain that will follow the momentary joy...

I always used to wonder..why Fall in love? Why descend, why tumble..should not love be the guiding factor to take you through the turbulent waters called LIFE? But guess..i have the answer now...as I did fall in love...and experiencing the fall..to the oblivion...

The question is what do i do now? Be in the state of mourn forever..or move on..or try and reconcile with the fact that " What I have lost was never mine..."

My mind tells me to shift my focus and resist the temptations ...and RESIST I will..though ironic I will be seeking the support of the soul whom I have to resist..and probably that will help me in building my resolve..and never to FALL again only to RISE... I shall RISE in love...